September 24, 2012

Living The (hockey) Life ... Walking On Thin Ice

I made a promise to myself to be open and honest here, but I still feel like I'm walking on thin ice when publishing how I feel about anything that is remotely related to hockey. What if someone from the front office, or a fan, or the coach finds my blog and reads that I've had a difficult time adjusting here?

There, I said it. I've had a difficult time adjusting here.

We feel incredibly lucky that hockey has taken us to Orlando this year. This is an awesome opportunity for TJ...And dare I say it?...I'm very excited for this hockey season.

But honestly, this constantly moving thing is getting old.

One would think that it gets easier year after year, and sure, I've become a pro at packing our lives into the back of a 5x8 UHAUL, or into two suitcases to fly to Europe...but truthfully, it never gets easier to say goodbye to loved ones or to go through the wave of emotions that come with each move. 

Experience doesn't prepare you for it.

I think that many people have this idea in their head that since we're living in Orlando that we're on a permanent vacation, that our apartment is located in the Magic Kingdom, that Minnie Mouse is my new BFF, and that sunshine equals happiness.

But it's simply not like that...and Dear Blog, since you really must know, my heart has been aching since we turned left out my parent's driveway. The sunshine and Cinderella's Castle is lovely, but they don't make up for the Thanksgiving and Christmas that I will miss once again in Massachusetts, or the fact that I have never watched my little brother play winter basketball, or the good times and memories that I am missing out on creating with my family and friends back home.

Reality Check:
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As I was having a silent pity party this past weekend I received a text message from a great friend and fellow hockey wife from a prior team that TJ played on. She was just checking in, just wanted to know how I was settling in. She gets "it", she understands the things that I don't have to say, and the feelings that I am experiencing because she's been there, too. After a bit of back and forth, she left me with the best advice that I have received in a long time:

"Enjoy every moment -- hockey doesn't last forever so enjoy your newlywed season!"

Girlfriend, You humbled me. Thank You.

It was easy for me to stay inside and mope around, put off unpacking, sit with my computer on my lap, and get sucked into the toxicity of social media and the internet for the past week.

Why?

Because happiness takes work.

Every single day, happiness takes work.

Happiness may not be sunshine, but it is certainly a choice.

When you wake up in the morning you can either choose to be happy or you can choose to be sad...mad...bitter...angry...pick your poison...because that's what a negative mindset is - poison. It affects much more than your mood - if affects your words, how you treat people, and the attitude and feelings of those around you.

So, I woke up this morning and I chose to be happy.

It's as simple...and as complicated...and as freeing as that.

Do you believe that happiness is a choice? 
and
What is the best advice that you've received lately?
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  1. You are simply amazing. That you are comfortable enough to open up like this shows a strength of character that few have! I think too many people see the glamor and fail to realize that it's not magic ... it's hard work, patience, persistence and tears that create the life they envy.

    Be strong, and be confident. If anyone can pull off such constant flux with total panache ... it's you!!

    xo

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words, they mean so much to me :) xoxoxo

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  2. This is such a great post! I believe that happiness is a choice. I know a few people that have been through hell, yet they still try their hardest stay positive and happy. Going through your life unhappy just doesn't seem to worth it. We have to remind ourselves that it could always be worse.

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    1. YES!! I have many people in my life who are dealing with such heavy matters, and they still keep on trucking. Reminding ourselves that it can always be worse is definitely a humbling reality check.

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  3. Couldn't have said it better myself. I'm at home visiting family right now and it makes me sad to see all that I am missing when I am not at home. But i also enjoy my short time at home much more because of that. Just think about the experience you're having... Many people would kill to have the experiences you've had and will continue to have. I know I'm jealous you're living in the sunshine state! :)

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    1. I kind of feel like my post is a biiiit pre-mature since we just got here a week ago, but I definitely wanted to capture my emotions while they are still raw.

      Mar, you're so right! We are very lucky ladies to experience all that we get to see and do, and I'm sure when TJ hangs them up one day I will be wanderlusting and wishing we could pack up the car and move again.

      Enjoy home and feel free to come trade in the snow for sun any time you need a vacation this winter! xoxo

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  4. I definitely feel for you! moving away from family is tough...I still miss mine and I've been away from home since I went to college 12 years ago...thank goodness for Skype these days!! it doesn't make up for being there...but it's something :)

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    1. Yes Ma'am, thank goodness for Skype!! xo

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  5. Happiness IS a choice! Great post Kym! We are having our first year at home right now, after being away for 10 years and looking back, it flew by. I wish I appreciated things about the cities we lived in a little more.
    Have a great season (with Minnie!)

    Nik Smith

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    1. Nik,

      It definitely doesn't feel like we've been doing this for six years - When TJ is finished playing I know that I will for sure be itching for this lifestyle again. Thanks for the reminder to appreciate everything that this city has to offer. Enjoy home!!

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  6. Remember that you have just moved and that you are still probably emotionally drained from the trip! Don't make any judgments about your new place until you have time to recover from the exhaustion of moving and saying good-bye to family. Sleep as much as you can and exercise the rest of the time! Some day you will look back to this time in your life like I do and "Sigh", remembering when you had all that time alone to focus on nothing but each other:)

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    1. Christine,

      I'm definitely not trying to judge it here...sometimes I just feel like if I don't write exactly how I'm feeling in that exact moment then I won't be able to move forward. But you're definitely right, I know I will for sure sigh when this chapter in our lives is over. Thanks so much for your advice :)

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  7. Yes! When I was pouting in Asia, my brother gave me similar (amazing) advice: "When it's all over, the only thing you'll regret is any time spent moping."

    Keep your head up, girl!

    P.S. I spent Christmas in Orlando a few years ago - New Smyrna is pretty deserted in the winter and is a great place for reflecting and writing.

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    1. Thank you SO MUCH for passing your brothers advice on :)

      I will definitely be checking out New Smyrna. xoxo

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  8. Ah girl, I am sorry you've had a hard time adjusting! Just know your online friends are only an email/tweet/status away! :) Thinking of you!

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  9. I learned the hard way that we choose our own path. Now I decided to wake up in the morning HAPPY and is the best thing I've done. Wether I'm having family difficulties, witches at my job, health issues or whatever the problem is, I choose to be happy because is MY life and we only live once!

    I really enjoyed your post Kim!

    Stephanie

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    1. Hi Stephanie,

      Thanks so much for your eye opening comment! I really believe that that's all it takes - getting your arse out of bed in the morning and telling yourself "Ok, today I am going to be happy!". I'm on day two of this little experiment, and it's still working for me :)

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  10. Just found your blog! After reading this post, my heart breaks for you. I was in a similar situation many years ago and I just couldn't do it anymore. I missed my family and never wanted to miss another holiday. Again, I was very young so your situation is much different, but I can feel your pain. One thing is for sure, you're Husband is one lucky man to have you supporting him.

    I was born and raised in Orlando and I'll never leave. It's not always rainbows and butterflies like people think but it's a really great place that hopefully you'll fall in love with, too.

    Just think about how blessed you are that you have a family that is so hard to miss :)

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    1. Hi Stephanie - Thanks so much for your sweet comment :) You really touched my heart with that last line, and I'll be sure to let TJ know how lucky he is (haha!)

      I'm going to reply to your e-mail later tonight, I'd love to meet up! xoxo

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  11. Girl I totally understand where you are coming from. Working in a front office of a team is just as tough. if you ever need to vent please let me know. I have become very good at moving every other season. One of your newest followers.

    xo
    Jessa

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    1. Hi Jessa!

      I'm so glad you found me! Thanks for your comment and I'm off to check out your blog now :)

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