August 22, 2013

All Groan Up // Six Things I Wish I Knew Seven Years Ago

Dear 20 year old Kym,

The only thing people will remember about you is how you made them feel.
And the same goes for what you will remember about them. We are emotional beings. Be nice, you little wench.

You should be a better sister. 
You spent years tracking the grades of the high school cheerleaders that you coached. You devoted yourself to developing their characters, involving them in the community, and teaching them valuable lessons about how to carry themselves, believe in themselves, and grow into confident young women. You forgot that your sisters needed the same from you. This will haunt you for the rest of your life.

You will speak your history. 
Remember that.

Take more pictures.
Years from now, the pictures are going to be faded and you're not even going to notice the giant pimple on your chin. So take more pictures and collect memories, not things.

Be open minded about your future.
You know nothing except dance. The studio is your second home and you end up graduating from college with your dance degree. But guess what? You also end up doing nothing with that degree. Allow yourself to explore other passions, like writing or fitness or managing people's shit (read: being the personal assistant to big wigs and helping to make their worlds go round. You, yes, you.) The faster you understand that it's perfectly okay to end up where you never planned on going, the faster you will come to terms with who you truly are and where you were always meant to be.

Everything happens for a reason.
Really, it does. Don't be afraid to speak up when you're being put down. Don't take people's shit. Don't take life too seriously. Don't set unrealistic goals or timelines for yourself. Breath. Relax. Learn to let go. Every day possesses a lesson to be learned, and tomorrow is a brand new day, if you allow it to be.

What would you tell your 20 year old self?
Tell me in a comment below, 
(or join in on the conversations on Facebook and Instagram!)

xo, 
27 year old Kym
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9 comments

  1. Clothes_and_DreamsAugust 22, 2013 at 1:09 PM

    Wow, I will keep these lessons in mind! Pity I'm still a 20 year old, otherwise I would have a lesson to tell :p

    xo Noor
    http://clothesanddreams.blogspot.com

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  2. Such great advice! And I totally agree with all of it.

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  3. "You should be a better sister.



    You spent years tracking the grades of the high school cheerleaders that
    you coached. You devoted yourself to developing their characters,
    involving them in the community, and teaching







    them valuable lessons
    about how to carry themselves, believe in themselves, and grow into
    confident young women. You forgot that your sisters needed the same from
    you. This will haunt you for the rest of your life."

    Thank you for being the best coach Kymmmm <3 Miss you!

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  4. Oh so true! As I said on insta... realising you're stronger than you think and taking the chances. I totally agree with the not ending up where you thought. I studied for a teaching degree for 4 years. After teaching for 6 years I am now wondering if it's for me or if there's other ops I should be pursuing? I guess it shows that we never stop learning.
    M x

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  5. These are all so true!!! :)

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  6. Love this! I might have to copy at some point ;) xoxoxox

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  7. I'm 19, a little lost in my own potential, a little lost in my own life and mentality, and reading this made me feel that, in talking to your 20 year old self, you were talking to me too. I completely identify with the 20 year old you address, and theres a great sense of comfort in that for me. I hope one day to have it figured out like you have, its hard to let go, enjoy life and not worry about where ill end up, the person I'm destined to become and whether my life will actually amount to anything i dream of.

    For now, i'll try to take your advice, learn to love where I am, hope for where I am going, and take lots of pictures along the way.

    Thank you for your wise words.

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  8. These are so great!! If I could tell my 20 year old self something now at 26, I would tell myself to not worry about doing what makes others happy. I'm the only one truly looking out for my happiness and I need to do what's going to be best for me, not what I think is best for everyone around me at the expense of my personal sanity and happiness.... I also need to tell my 26 year old self that as well :)

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  9. This is a really great post - love it all and it is so true! I really needed this today - thanks, friend! xxx

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