September 25, 2013

Breaking Blogging Rules & My Favorite Motor Boating SOB

Somewhere within the first paragraph of Blogging 101, it clearly states that your blog should have a specific niche. There are food bloggers, mommy bloggers, DIY bloggers, fashion bloggers, lifestyle bloggers, travel bloggers, hell, there are even bloggers who blog about blogging.

I tried to label myself as a "hockey wife blogger" for a bit, but that got old (and barf worthy) really fast. I also tried to label myself as a "life and style blogger," until I realized that I'm the last person who should talk about fashion because I spend most of my days in yoga pants and tank tops.

If you don't have a blog then you might not understand what I'm about to say ... but there is a lot of competition in this blogging world to have high readership numbers, or to write the most commented on post of the week, or to be the next big thing.

It's really exhausting sometimes trying to keep up with it all. 

And once I stopped trying to conform to a specific niche, and I stopped caring so much about my numbers, and I stopped trying to xerox what a more popular blogger than myself was doing, my readership started to grow. And I found my voice. And I became more comfortable and confident with my content here. 

And most importantly, I became authentic. Which led to me weeding through and finding other authentic bloggers who break the blogging rules and publish whatever the hell they feel like publishing each day. I quickly found that these bloggers are the ones who motivate me daily to keep this place fresh and fun, and they inspire me much more than any self-dubbed "inspiration blogger" or "popular blogger" ever could.

So the moral of today's story is this: Stop trying to conform to whatever you think a blogger "should" be doing. Blogging isn't a new "thing," someone already published a post today that you planned on publishing tomorrow (that bastard!), and the probability of you becoming popular in an already overly crowded niche is slim to none. So write for you!

Doctor Seuss didn't tell us this when we were five years old for nothing: Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. 


And now, I'm going to introduce you to one of my favorite motor boating sonofabitch bloggers I was referring to up above, Sarah. We did a little Q&A so that you can learn more about her ... and you'll probably learn a little more about me, too. Enjoy. xo

Kym:: Texas Roadhouse

Sarah:: Pizza Hut
Kym:: Ummm...I can put both of my legs behind my head? Is that considered talent? Can I use that at Miss America?

Sarah:: I can do a baby cry. Not just scream "whaaa" but you would think there was a newborn in my vocal cords. 
Kym:: Mmmmm....well let's put it this way, Fox is my second favorite F word. Don't judge me, that four letter word gets a lot of slack, but I think it's very versatile.

Sarah:: Wigwam. No matter how bad of a day you're having, the second the word wigwam slides off your lips you will be instantly happier. Don't believe me, give it a go.....
Kym:: The only "celebrity" I've ever met in real life was Jason Earles from Hannah Montana back in 2008. He's was like 5 feet tall and 30 years old playing a 15 year old boy at the time, which I still think is pretty flipping creepy!

Sarah:: I've met Chipper Jones, I was 8. I saw Peyton Manning at a bar once but chickened out on saying hi. I went on John Legend's tour bus in hopes that he was there, but it turned out to just be his crew doing drugs. We left. 
Kym:: A princess. But in all seriousness, I look forward to one day owning my own dance and barre studio.

Sarah:: Olympic Badminton Player. But in all seriousness, Olympic Badminton Player. //For the record, I'm aware the picture below is table tennis. I don't have one of me playing badminton (yet)//
Kym:: I would love to live in Key West or Tahiti, but I'll probably end up living by a small stream in Massachusetts.

Sarah:: I think I'm where I want to be. About a year ago I started applying for jobs in all the major cities I love (Dallas, Chi-town, NYC) and scored a position in Dallas. Now here I am rootin for all the teams I love, what could be better?
Kym:: If I had a million bucks I would pay off our car and all of our debt, I'd buy a house, and I would probably go a little crazy on frivolous things like a new wardrobe and shoes. I'd also donate a chunk to the Bulldog Club of America Rescue Network, treat my family, and then soon thereafter, I'd be stuck eating macaroni and cheese and hot dogs for the rest of my life because I'm terrible at managing money.

Sarah:: Well, now that Kym had to play the donation card.... I'm obligated to say that I would donate some to Susan G. Komen foundation. I'd like to say I'd save it, but knowing me, I'd have a new car, a new house and a crap ton of stuff from Forever 21.
Kym:: I wake up between 7-7:30am, make myself a coffee and check my email and social media accounts. I work from home as a personal assistant, and around 8am I start doing my part to make my client's worlds go round. Between 11 and 12 I do "blog stuff" then return to assisting my peeps from 12-2. My eyes are usually burning by this time so I take a break from the computer, eat lunch, run errands, remember that I have a dog, doink around, and return to work from 4-6. Around 6 I take another break, eat dinner, and keep myself busy doing pointless things. I try to mix in a run and some barre or yoga, and then return to the computer to do more "blog stuff" and work for another two hours. Wash, dry, repeat. To make a long story short, I basically sit on my butt for most of the day!

Sarah:: I wake up at 5am and go to the gym.  I wake up at 6:30 and fidget on my phone for longer than I care to admit then realize if I don't get up I'm going to have to send that awkward, "I got stuck in traffic" message to my boss. I work from 8am-5pm at a place called Tohatsu. It is a Japanese outboard motor company (like on boats) and I find myself with very little patience trying to communicate with the guys in Japan many times throughout the day. I love my job though, especially when I get to travel to beautiful locations a few times a year! After work I go workout again. I come home and work on my second job for my old company back in Tennessee and do blog stuff before passing out to do it all over again! 
Kym:: Being completely frivolous ... my iPhone, my computer and Netflix.

Sarah:: iPhone, computer, everything in this post
Kym:: I am most grateful for my family. We move around quite a bit and I've lost contact with a lot of friends in the process. It's true what they (who the hell are THEY, anyways?) say ... family will always be there!

Sarah:: Family! I totally include my two pups General and Venus as family members. Like Kym said, friends come and go, family will always be there! 

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  1. I love when you break all the rules :) Those are my favorite posts!
    And you & Sarah are adorable.

  2. I love Sarah's (and your) blog! I don't think I fit in a specific blogging niche, but then again I'm still fairly new at this.

  3. Thank you ma'am! Why try to "fit in" to a specific niche when you can stand out all on your own?? xoxo :)

  4. So I pop over to see what's happening in travel babble land and if this isn't the most inspirational few paragraphs I've read in a long time. I couldn't agree more with you. I HATE niches. I think they are incredibly demotivating and I can guarantee you're going to give up. It happened to me! Write for you and the things you are passionate about and people will eat that shit up! You da bomb!

  5. Yessss. Ma'am!! You totally hit the nail on the head here! Quit giving a damn and just write whatever the hell you want, I say.
    You + Sarah = YES times two.

  6. I'm so glad that I found your blog through Sarah! I've read just a few posts and I can already tell that I'm going to enjoy being a reader. I can't wait to read more!!

  7. Aw loved this post! I've been kind of confused lately, just starting up my own 'travel' blog... But the thing is I'm also borderline obsessed with fashion & makeup, which I've noticed is, well, not so much talked about in the travel community... & I also have a massive passion for clean eating & adventure sports. S'pose I'll just blog about all three, I don't think I'll ever be able to categorize myself in one niche! x

  8. You just rocked my awesome socks off! I feel like I have to remind myself of the words you wrote... I can do whatever I want! Right there with ya!

  9. stopping over from sarah's blog! i love your sweet doggie and that your dream is to have a dance/barre studio. i've been taking adult ballet for awhile and it's my fave thing ever. happy i found your blog!
    -- jackie @ jade and oak

  10. Yes, yes and yes! I feel it is your blog and you should write what you want. I didn't start mine to become famous or make money. I started it so I could keep track of my life since I tend to forget the small things.

  11. love this. people always ask me about posting on a schedule or how i decide what to post. you know how i decide? i sit down at my computer in the morning and write something, pop in a photo and hit publish. it NEVER get scheduled NEVER sits in drafts and NEVER is thought of beforehand. it just happens. that's the way i like it!

  12. Thanks for your kind words Miss Sarah Webb & thanks for the feature at your mecca :)

  13. Youuuu Miss Whitney Ellen inspire me to have the confidence to say whatever the hell I want. So thank you :)

  14. Thank you Sara!! I'm so happy that you found me :) I look forward to getting to know you more!!

  15. I just know you'll love her blog, she's a riot!!

  16. Thank you for your kind words, Meghan!! xo

  17. I get burnt out so easily. When that happens I unfortunately have to stop myself from reading what everyone else is publishing or doing, so that I don't feel the pressure to keep up. People might start a riot for a hot minute, but if the linkup isn't something that you're happy with right now then axe it!! Right now I'm making it a point to only publish things that I will be happy to read and see here a year from now. I'll support you with whatever you decide and I love your blog no matter what you're doing or not doing :)

  18. Hahaha, it takes a lot to creep me out, Kristin!! YES YES YES, you have to remind yourself why you started your blog. This probably sounds awful, but I can only check in on other blogs once or twice a week. If I check in on blogs every single day I feel pressure to "keep up with the Jones'," you know what I mean? Thank you for your kind words and I'm so glad that we've been able to connect in this big but very small blogging world :)

  19. Hey there! You absolutely don't have to categorize yourself! My suggestion would be to network with travel bloggers ... but you can also network with fashion and makeup bloggers ... get yourself out there and meet like minded people. I wish you tons of luck with your blog!! xo

  20. AMEN, Samantha! This is the second time that I've written about this topic since March ... I think we all need a reminder every so often why we do this time consuming thing called blogging ;)

  21. Hi Jackie!! It's a pleasure to be able to connect with you, thanks for stopping by from Sarah's blog!! Pup can definitely be a brat, but he's brought so much joy to my life :) Ah, I love that we have barre in common!! I'm off to check out your blog now!!

  22. Exactly! I've made it a point to only publish content here that I will be happy to read a year from now!! xo

  23. That's because you're organic and authentic and AMAZING Mrs. Aunie Sauce ;)

  24. Hello!! I'm so happy that you ventured over here from Sarah's blog, I absolutely LOVE connecting with new blogging friends!! Blogging can definitely become overwhelming if you allow it to be ... but blogging can also be whatever you want it to be, so if you focus on keeping it fun, it only makes sense that the fun will outweigh any overwhelming feelings!! :)

  25. I can honestly only check in on other's blog posts two or three times a week because it can become overwhelming to constantly read what everyone else is doing. I'm finally happy in this blogging phase that I'm in and I'm happy that you're confident where you are, too!!

  26. Agreed!!! She definitely has a good thing going there :)

  27. teehee (to myself) humblebrag much? I'm horrible. :)


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