December 12, 2013

18 Things That I've Been Too Afraid To Publish Here ...

I never fill this blog with fluff. All of the words that I type come from my heart ... and I have to assume that you read whatever I publish here each day because I'm honest and real, and because you can relate to me in some way.

But I hope that you realize that this blog is only filled with half of the truths. There are a whole bunch of other things that go on each day behind the scenes of the edited and filtered life that I choose to put on display here and on Instagram and Twitter.

I carry lots of things and thoughts in my heart that scare me ... there are dozens of blog posts that I've drafted about all of these things, but I end up deleting them out of fear of judgement and vulnerability and embarrassment. 

But not today.

What I'm about to publish today is actually quite frightening for me ... it's a list of all of the things that I've been too afraid to publish, but I've finally decided to publish because I've realized that these are the things that truly make me relatable and honest and real ... so without further ado:


I have a love/hate relationship with this blog. I wonder if it's worth it, or if I should try harder, or if I should try less. I wonder if I should focus on it more to take it to the next level, or if I should focus on my real job instead. I wonder if blogs are dying, and if this space is even going to matter in five years.

I'm currently at my highest weight ever and I'm incredibly uncomfortable in my own skin.

I have a close family member who is a heroin addict.

I can count the people who I trust in this world on two fingers.

I am incredibly guilty of choosing blog projects and work over spending quality time with loved ones, and I need to focus on getting my priorities in order asap.

I think marriage takes more work than I ever expected or planned for. It's been beautiful and fun ... but the first year was also the hardest year of my life.

I seriously considered divorcing TJ this past summer. I'm probably going to kick myself in the ass for publishing this onto the interwebs ... but after the aforementioned months that we endured together, when we came home from Germany and I was able to collect my thoughts after the miscarriage and all of the lows that we experienced, I kind of hit a breaking point and kept thinking "Is this it? Is this what the rest of my life is going to be like? Is this what marriage is? Because if it is, I want out." We were able to work through it all and ended up better and closer than ever ... but for a few weeks in the early summer I let our marriage completely fall apart.

I'm proud of TJ, but I never like telling people for the first time that he's a professional hockey player because they have this preconceived notion that he's a million-bajillionaire or that we're loaded ... and we're not.

I'm currently just under $8,000 in credit card debt. It's pretty embarrassing and I have close to nothing to show for it.

I have to sometimes step away from Instagram or Twitter for a few days because I become filled with intense feelings of jealousy.

I am really, really good at shutting people down and cutting them out of my life without a second thought. It's a blessing and a curse.

I carry a lot of negative feelings and borderline hatred for the family and friends who didn't acknowledge my miscarriage or ask how I was doing when they damn well knew what I went through.

I was convinced each month for the last three months that I was pregnant. And then I wasn't. And then I was sad. And then I was angry. And I'm still angry.

I told a little white lie a few months back when I said that I wasn't sure if I'll ever be able to start trying for another baby again. We've been trying since August and I'm starting to become scared that something is wrong and I will never become pregnant again.

I struggle with turning my inner monologue off to focus on what other's are saying. I listen to respond, and I need to work on that.

I'm becoming more introverted as I get older ... I am much more accepting of people, but I am finding that I actually "like" people less and less.

I struggle with anxiety and panic attacks. Anything really, can set it off. Busy grocery stores, getting cut off on the highway. Sometimes I can laugh these things off easily, but other times it's like a switch flips and I can't breath / I feel like I'm going to explode. 

I sometimes feel like I'm stuck standing in what-the-fuck-am-I-doing-with-my-life-ville. I see and hear of girls who are five years younger than me who I used to teach dance or cheerleading to who already own homes or have families ... and I still live in my parent's basement in the summer and it's just ... sometimes I feel like I'm so behind, and that I'm failing to thrive as a human.

And there it all is ... a few of the little and not so little things that I've never published here. And now, I need a drink and it's not even noon yet. Fabulous. 

Good thing blogging is cheaper than a $250 an hour therapist, huh?

Please be nice and try not to judge me too hard, k?


xo,
Kym

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154 comments

  1. Oh Kym, this made me love you even more! It's so nice to know that I'm not the only one who doesn't have my shit together! Have a drink for me too, okay?

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    1. After the influx of comments on this post, I'm pretty sure that NONE of us have our shit together ... and that is totally reassuring and makes me feel like I'm not so alone. I hope that all of the ladies who read this walk away being a little kinder, gentler, and more understanding of their fellow female :)

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  2. I love this so much! Good for you and I don't think anyone is going to judge you for being honest. Real blogs > Fluff blogs, ANYDAY!

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  3. I am so proud of you for posting this. I have to say that it takes balls to let ALL YOUR FEELINGS OUT. And I dont think anyone will judge you for being real. Not everyday is a walk in freaking paradise. Marriage is hard, life is hard, but Its true. And its life. and you are strong.

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    1. Thank you my sweet friend. I still haven't decided if I'm strong or crazy, but we will go with strong for today ;) xoxoxo

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  4. You're a beautiful person and your total and complete honesty just makes you even more wonderful. I love your blog and everything you share.

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  5. Girl, I love this. One, it irks me so much when bloggers claim to be "real" and "honest" but hide so much of their lives, things that aren't even sensitive or overly personal. And two, I definitely share some of the same insecurities you wrote about. My internship is ending and I'm about to become an unemployed new college graduate living at home with her parents, aka taboo cliche #1. I feel like I'm about to become nothing more than part of a lame statistic that everyone uses to bash this generation, and it's terrifying. Talk about feeling like I'm behind/failing to thrive, lol.

    So anyway, keep rocking the honesty. It's always good to hear we're all equally on the strugbus sometimes! :)

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  6. Gosh, I just love you so much for this post. You are absolutely the most honest blog that I read and you're right, it's why I come back and read every single day! Most people (including myself) would not be as brave as you to share these details of your their lives and I think we're all grateful for bloggers like you!

    I'm so sorry that you've had to go through the things that you have, but just know that they are just making you that much stronger. xoxoxoxoxox

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    1. Brave or crazy ... I haven't figured out what I am yet lol ... but the support over this post is much more than I ever expected and I'm happy that so many other women and bloggers can relate. Thank you for your kind words, they made my heart smile. I am so thankful that this silly blogging world has allowed me to be introduced and become friends with you. Love you long time BBFL.

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  7. Honestly, it's refreshing to hear you say these things. Not because I want you to have hardships or be in emotional pain, but I relate to so many of them and feel so much less alone. Thanks for your vulnerability!

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    1. Thank YOU for your sweet comment :) I am glad that you can relate to a few of these and that you know that you aren't the only one. My hope, truly, is that we can all walk away from reading this post and remember to be a little bit kinder to our fellow females who are struggling with their own things, too. xoxo

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  8. no judgment at all! I think a lot of us deal with really similar things. I also oscillate between wanting to work harder on my blog and then also just letting the whole thing go. and I get insanely jealous reading certain blog posts, instagram etc too. and yes to the anxiety attacks as well. so I so so feel you. and so sorry about the residual effects of the miscarriage. hopefully you guys will get good news soon!

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    1. Thank you for your kind words Jackie <3 I am sorry to read that you experience similar things ... but it's comforting to know that you're not alone, huh? I'm always happy to talk if you'd like :) xoxo

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  9. I think it's amazingly brave of you to post all of these things. I think we all tend to keep certain things private and away from our blogging life and to open yourself up and write them like this takes courage. I struggle with a lot of anxiety and insecurities myself and they can definitely lead you down a dark path that is hard to pull yourself out of. I send you prayers in hopes that things work out and that you find your way. Every one of us is meant to do things at different times and different ways. It's hard not to compare yourself to where other people are... I struggle with that myself somedays... but remember that the timing for someone else may not be the right timing for you!

    Jamie @
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    1. Brave or nuts, I haven't decided yet ;) You are right ... all of us are meant to do things at different times and in different ways. I guess I've always known that ... but it sounds much more reassuring coming from someone else :) Thank you for your kind words Jamie, they are much appreciated <3

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  10. I know what you mean about the jealous factor on social media. Everyone only posts the rosy, happy, beautiful moments and that's totally fine. But I think people often do forget that every single person struggles behind the scenes sometimes. Thank you for being honest and posting things that so many of us bloggers wouldn't have the courage to post. I can relate to you on so many of these things and it's hard. Life is hard sometimes! But life is also wonderful and beautiful too. Thank you for sharing, Kym. <3

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    1. It's terrible, isn't it? Social media is like one big happy brag. I've become a lot more conscious about what I publish on Instagram ... and I honestly hardly EVER flip through it to see other peoples photos because I can't handle the ever cleverly so placed LV bags or giant diamond rings or any of that jazz. I am happy to read that you can relate to all of this and that I'm not a total crazypants :)

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  11. You're not alone in what am I doing with my life area. I often question whether or not I'm really being the "full" me or just getting by. I question what I can even do with my life. It's frightening and depressing to watch everyone else's "happy fluff" on social media outlets. Thank you for being real and honest. To anyone with something negative to say, it reflects their own character, which isn't very positive or share-worthy.

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    1. I question if I'm being the "full" me all of the time. I guess we will never truly know, so it's important to make sure that we're doing what makes us happy. Thank you for your kind comments, they made my heart smile :) xoxo

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  12. This is the most honest "honest post" I've ever read on a blog. So many "secrets" that bloggers post are things like 'I spend too much at Starbucks, I hoard lipstick, I spend too much time on Instagram,' and treat them like these terrible secrets. You, on the other hand, published as much as you could without outright naming names of family & friends. While most bloggers "reveal" that their marriages take work, you showed us just how hard married life can be.

    Other blogs put fluff on the bad things, which I can understand. But this post is so raw and honest that I feel like people can see that bloggers really do have tough real-life problems. It's so easy to think that bloggers have glamorous lives with huge closets, perfect hair & makeup skills, adorable husbands & kids who want nothing more than to pose for dozens of photos, spotless houses, time for countless DIY projects... Thank you for showing that you're a "real" person! Sorry this is so long... I hope you find some peace with your anxiety & struggles =)

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    1. You are spot on with everything that you said about the facade that some bloggers create ... and never apologize for too long of a comment :) Your words are very much appreciated and I thank you for every one of them <3

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  13. This is why I love reading your blog! You took a leap and dove head first into 'who gives an eff-ville!' You're awesome and don't let any negativity get you down =)

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  14. I LOVE this. You are brave for putting yourself out there! I struggle with the fine line of being vulnerable on my blog, some weeks it works and I let it all out there for the world to judge. Other times, I hide behind the computer screen.

    I'm so sorry that you have been through SO much in the past 6 months.Keep going and staying strong! xoxox

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  15. Those who might judge most likely need to look at their own lives. I always wonder the same for my blog but I figure if its supposed to be high and mighty it'll get there one day.

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    1. I agree with you 100%. As bloggers we always say that we only write for ourselves ... but let's be honest, if no one is reading, would we keep writing? I know I wouldn't. However, after reading the comments today from dozens and dozens of women who can relate to this post, I'm truly happy with the community of readers who are here, and I realized that what I have here is more than enough :) xoxo

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  16. I love this post so much. I can definitely relate to a few of the things you mentioned, and it's nice to know I'm not the only one. Thanks for this! :)

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    1. I am so happy to read that you can relate to a few of these. I hope that everyone who reads this post who relates will walk away and be a little kinder and more understanding of their fellow female - we are all struggling and just trying to get by :)

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  17. I love this! I don't think your 18 things are any different than any other woman's out there. Of course, the family issues and things like that are but I think every one feels the same about marriage at some point and babies for sure. I know that we are currently in the same kind of boat and it is very frustrating when that stupid test says no and you think you have just been that crazy for the past 4 weeks. Just take one day at a time and remember that for every 1 thing you didn't want to publish there is at least 1 other person who is going through the same thing. :)

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, Sara - they truly touched my heart :) I'm sorry to read that you're having a difficult time conceiving as well. TJ keeps telling me that "when it's meant to be it will be" ... which usually leaves me wanting to punch him in the face ;) But it's so true. Our time will come. I will be praying for you and can't wait to read for your good news soon <3

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  18. I so admire your honesty and candor. I can relate first hand to several things on your list. Stay strong...you are brave and stronger than you know. Hugs...

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  19. Love this post, I admire you just putting these things out there. Who cares girl, its your life and no one should judge you on how you feel. I just hope things get better and continue to get better for you. Hugs and much respect.

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    1. Hugs and much respect back to you. Thank you for your kind words, Carlisa <3

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  20. I love you for this. There are so many things I want to talk about on the blog and I haven't been brave enough to come out and say. You really have inspired me to at least give it a go. If it makes you feel any better, there is zero judgement coming from my end, in fact, I have many of the same thoughts you listed. Life is so hard. I really hope it helped posting this, because I promise it helps others to read that they are not alone. I know this helped me.

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    1. I love you for THIS. Thank you for your kind words Sarah. I am happy that this post inspired you. If there's one thing that I've learned about blogging, it's that these are the types of posts that people can relate to ... not when I post about recipes or outfits or anything ... it's the stuff that speaks to them and touches their soul. It's totally exhausting to try and write like this all of the time, but I've never regretted publishing questionable posts like this because the feedback has always been wonderful, and it's nice to know that you're not alone. It gives me hope that we as women can all walk away a little more understanding and kinder to one another :) xoxo

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  21. Love, love this post. Good for you for telling the truth, that took some serious courage! And I echo several of those - lots of us do, I'm sure. You aren't alone!

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    1. Thank you for your kind comment, Lauren. I haven't decided if I have courage or the crazies, but I'm glad that so many others can relate :)

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  22. If I left blogging tomorrow, I would so happy that I found you in this fucking disaster of a blogland. You are so honest and open and I admire that so much! I think you'd be surprised at how much of what you struggle with is a struggle for other people who could never talk about it and who get so much comfort from knowing that someone else out there feels it too. You are my favorite! xoxo

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    1. Third'ing this :) Some days I want to click the publish button on so many things I choose not to share because of the nosy people I work with as well as the people sitting across the desk from me that have the brains to plug my name into google ... maybe someday I'll have the courage to follow your lead. Meanwhile I'd rather read about real life I can relate to than fluff anyday.

      sending lots of virtual (((hugs)))

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    2. Please don't leave blogging tomorrow or everrrr. I am so happy that the blog world and the real world are not as big as we think, and that we were able to meet. You are one special lady and it's very comforting that you've welcomed me in this big ole city. I look forward to adventures to come <3

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  23. Love this. I have a lot of the same struggles. You are such an inspiring person and I can always relate to your words.

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    1. Thank you so much for YOUR kind words - they found a very special place in my heart. I am so glad that you can relate to me ... it always feels so good to know that you're not alone :) xoxo

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  24. This is my most favorite post to date. You are a brave girl, KY(F). And I love you and your love filled heart and your anxiety filled brain very, very, very much.

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    1. Naaaaahhhh this is a top fiver but I don't think it's a favorite ;) HWTEXAKY 4life.

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  25. What a great post!! So brave of you to share these things, and I love learning more about you!! It's amazing how many things we actually have in common, and just reading that someone else is experiencing the same things and I'm not alone in it, makes me feel so much better - so thank you <3

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  26. I don't think there's anything wrong with being scared to share information. All our lives there's this stigma placed on not being perfect, like everyone is just supposed to act like everything is fine and dandy all the time. That's bullshit, not real life. I'm glad you posted this.

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  27. First things first: I like you too much to ever judge you.

    I absolutely think that you should "try less," because my favorite posts are when you are honest and raw, like this one. Everyone posts their best life moments on the internet, but you let us feel like we really know you when you open up and let us see your less-than-perfect moments. That's what real life is all about.

    I, too, feel like I'm stuck in what-the-fuck-am-I-doing-with-my-life-ville. I'm convinced that the people who seem to have everything together are just really good at lying about/hiding their life's flaws. Like that quote says, I'd rather be honest than impressive.

    I have a very small blog, and sometimes I think I should post more and try to grow it, but then, I remember that I'm often too tired to post, or don't want to post just to post, so I say "screw it." I really just use my blog as a sounding board and free therapy, so I'm okay with it the way that it is.

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  28. This is incredibly brave of you and I admire it so much. It reminds us that we are not alone with our struggles and that everyone has problems. Remember that when you look at your instagram feed! I need to work on that too :)

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  29. I really love the few bloggers out there who post REAL things. In a blogosphere of recipes, DIYs, and daily outfits, it's nice to see that I'm not alone, that real insecurity, sadness, anger, and problems happen to other people, too. Thanks for this and kudos to you!

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  30. You are a rockstar. Thank you for sharing these really real parts of yourself with us. I struggle with many of the same kinds of things you do.... so much so, that an email would be better than just a comment. I'll work on that. Thank you for being you, Kym :)

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  31. You basically just took my thoughts and wrote them in a blog post (well except the whole marriage/divorcing/baby thing bc I don't heven ave a boyfriend but I did have a failed engagement and went through a lot of the same thoughts when that relationship was falling apart). This post definitely made me relate to you more and made me love your blog even more! I think you, both edited and non-edited, are awesome!

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  32. I can relate to so many of these points. Especially the part of feeling like a failure. It was so brave of you to post about your marriage and miscarriage. There are so many times I want to just lay it all out there about my own marriage but sometimes it's just too personal. You're definitely not alone in your thoughts.

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  33. being open is so so so hard. i love this post though. i find everytime you write i like you more and more.

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  34. You are so brave. You are so honest. You are so likable. You are so lovable... Just wanted you to know all of that!

    1) I'm becoming much more introverted as I get older also. I don't like a large social life anymore, my fears are multiplying and I've become a major homebody. If this "decline" continues, I'm afraid I might end up a paranoid schizophrenic... of which I have a close family member who is.

    2) I'm really good at cutting people out of my life also. I don't look back. I swear I could be a professional compartmentalizer, as my mom calls it. "You and your dad compartmentalize everything" blah blah blah.

    3) We tried for several months to get pregnant, but the 1st (and only time) we tried the Sperm Meets Egg Method we conceived. My friend did the SMEG Method also... she got pregnant quickly too! Worth a try if you haven't already. It'll happen for you soon. It will. I just know it will....... And all of us can't wait for that special announcement from you!

    Love you sweet girl. Chin up. Boobs out!

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  35. Kym ... I love you for this post. More then a few of these prompts I could have written myself. I actually have sooo much I want to say to you ... But I think I rather email you privately then do so as a comment on your blog, so look for an email from me soon :) xoxo

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  36. This post brought tears to my eyes girl..... can we just be best friends?! I want to hug you, and grab coffee and sit and talk for hours because THIS IS REAL LIFE! I love you and your blog :)

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  37. You are so brave...and amazing. I think its inspiring that you've posted such an honest and open post. Everyone has insecurities and things they hide from the bloggy world, and I love when people really open up like this. I think you're such an inspiration! You're also my new favorite blog :)

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  38. Wow. I think everyone can relate to you on some of these points and others... Well I can completely understand why you'd be feeling this way.
    I just wanted to say what an inspiration you are for admitting these things today and embracing who you are.

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  39. I think a lot of people may have some of the same problems, plus whatever unique situation they're in. Nobody's perfect. I like that blogs focus on the good things, but it's nice to realize we're human. Hugs :).

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  40. First - the marriage thing - you are not a lone. I love my husband more than anything now and we have the greatest relationship...now. But I specifically remember our first year of marriage thinking "well, I don't want to get a divorce, but I have no idea where to go from here..." because it was so hard and we were so low. But working through all the hard things leads to so many fabulous things as I'm sure you've figured out.

    About the feeling behind thing. I get that too! We still live in my parents house when we're home for the summers and sometimes even longer! Almost all of our friends have houses and we're not there yet. But look on the bright side - you've been able to travel the world with your best friend and even though it's hard sometimes, it's an experience you can't trade in for anything. And when you're old and grey you will have your house along with so many memories to pass on to the future generations!! That's how I see it! We may be behind, but man we're having a good time while we're at it!

    Comparison is the thief of joy - enjoy your life, it's unique & beautiful!

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  41. I think you are so brave for putting this out here and feel it will help so many other people. So many women suffer from the same struggles, but don't acknowledge it and don't feel open to talk to others. THANK YOU!

    ~Ashley @ A Cute Angle
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  42. I think it's so great that you are able to open yourself up like this. I wish I had the strength that you have. I am at my highest weight ever as well and I feel awful, and I have a similar situation as you stated above with a family member. I also have been trying and trying and I'm worried something is very wrong. You are SO not alone, in any of this.

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  43. Often I feel behind the 8-ball too...hubby just got out of the Marine Corps and we have literally had to start over at age 28. Friends and siblings are buying homes (big, nice, custom homes) and we are in a small apartment with a shitty dishwasher. BUT. BUT. BUT. He has a job, we are healthy, and our rent is less than a mortgage would be at this point. It's taken a LOT to learn to focus on the positives during such a drastic life change. And some days I just feel like I hate everyone and don't even want to deal. But then I put on my big girl panties and fake it till I feel better. And drink coffee, because that always helps, too :)

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  44. Oh man. I love (but hate, I suppose) these kinds of posts. I look at so many things and think "me too! me too" but at the same time, I feel sad because I don't want you to have to go through this stuff.

    So a couple things. 1- I prohibit myself from going on instagram/facebook/twitter BECAUSE of that same thing. jealousy. i feel like everything has to be pinterest worthy and it's all a lie. so i just don't go on anymore... unless to post something, that is. that i will still occasionally do.
    2- read dave ramsey's total money makeover. i don't care if you're not a reader. daniel and i just read it and it has ALREADY just changed our lives. we are GOING to be debt free... and you can do it too, promise.
    3- you're not the only one with the marriage misgivings. i hate admitting that i get them, too. it's hard and sad and embarrassing. but i'm right there with you!

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  45. You.are.amazing. Simply amazing. I, too, have plenty of things that I hold back from the blog but you're right, that's the real stuff that people relate to. I SO appreciate this post and as a fellow anxiety sufferer, I know it must've been extra hard for you to hit publish. I'm so proud of you and so glad you had the courage to do so. A couple months ago I started realizing that I read SO many blogs every single day yet even though I was reading their writings on a daily basis, I knew nothing about them besides what outfits they wore, what companies were sponsoring them, and their current drink of choice. It made me sad for the blogging world. You, my dear, are not only a breath of fresh air, but an incredibly strong woman! xo

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  46. Kym, I LOVE THIS. I've been reading for such a long time and comment rarely (hoping to turn this around soon!!) I totally understand the divorce thing...I'm actually in the thick of that shit right now...minus some of the other things you were dealing with. It's fucking hard...and it feels so good to say that, expletive and all. I don't even know you and I like you. You are real and it is SO refreshing. REAL BLOGS >>>>>>>> FLUFF.

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  47. I love this. I'd rather read a real life, honest blog any day.

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  48. Wow. I could go on and on about why this is such an amazing post but my words wouldn't be able to do it justice. So amazing! Lots of love xo

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  49. And for that entry you gained a new reader...me! Love your honesty and I appreciate it!

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  50. As a new reader of your blog I first want to say how sorry I am for your loss. Secondly, I want to commend you for having to balls to post something like this. Blogs allow readers filtered glimpses of the author's life and a post with this level of honesty is incredibly refreshing.

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  51. so proud of you! i know this took strength to write but it really made me and everyone else get to know you a little bit more and the real struggles you face. we all face hard times and i love when people use these blogs to open up and let it out using their words. you're one amazing person.

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  52. That was great! I absolutely love the honesty. So many blogs become fake & un-genuine. Thank you for bringing it back! You're awesome

    livingincolormom.com

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  53. I love how honest you are. You have quickly become one of my favorites. We all have shit, but I love the people that can say that out loud and not totally put up a fake front all the time. Kudos to you. Cheers :)

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  54. Thank you for saying what a lot of us are feeling. It's beautiful, scary, and freeing all at the same time. You make me want to do this too. I feel there is so much I am feeling and thinking and never say on the blog. Thank you again. xo Moe

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  55. This may be one of my favorite posts ever. I love reading how people are actually feeling, not just what they want readers to think they feel, and the fact that I share so many of the same things you talked about makes me realize how we're never truly alone with whatever we are experiencing.

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  56. my heart was breaking a little bit after each comment for you, Maybe the posting it and putting it out there will help you be able to turn the negatives into positives. Always remember most of us follow people because they are real, not picture perfect and letting the world know everything is not perfect is more than OK

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  57. I love this post and I admire everything you wrote about- thank YOU for sharing! I love your blog, I love your transparency, and I already look forward to reading more. Cheers to life and all that that comes with it :)

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  58. Girl, you are amazing. This is incredibly brave. Thank you for sharing and I wish I had half the guts you do!

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    Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

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  59. I can relate to you on so many levels, so don't ever feel alone. In fact, I'm sure a lot of bloggers can whether or not they will actually admit it. I have a love/hate relationship with my blog on occasion, I've gained a bit of weight lately and absolutely hate how I look, I have quite a bit of debt and don't have a "real" job, I'm constantly trying not to become a green-eyed monster, and I feel so stuck in life and have no idea what to do next.

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  60. I love the bravery in this post. As someone who just celebrated her first year of marriage and found it a difficult year, I appreciate the honesty.

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  61. Wow this is AMAZING and so brave of you. I'm so glad you posted this because I'm sure a ton of other people are ieht going through the same things or feeling the same way. I know I have a couple on there like the Instagram thing, anxiety, and more!

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  62. yes. heck yes. i'm so glad you're getting so much love for this post because you more than deserve it! it can be hard to be honest and open on the web but sometimes it's so needed and i respect you so much for having the gusts to lay it all out there. often times as bloggers others can easily think that we have everything together, neatly tied with a bow. it's takes guts to go out there and say that you don't. and i am right there with you on the panic attacks. i called my husband last week in a panic because of traffic and parking. something that some days doesn't bother me and other days sends me spiraling into a frenzy. anxiety is something i have struggled with for years now and am still trying to figure out how to deal with it. thanks for opening up.

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  63. First of all, you are incredible brave for posting all of this! I already look up to you, and so I guess this sort of makes you like an idol? :)
    For a lot of these, I either wanted to give you a hug and say "it's okay," or nod and completely agree with you. I'm constantly doubting myself and shutting people out (easily, I might add), and then overanalyzing and freaking out. Some days I just want to stay in bed and never wake up, and literally anything will ruin my day.

    Stay strong and be proud of who you are because we love you! I love your blog so much! You may not think so, but your blog matters. It still will in five years. The people who read it, those you've inspired and the friendships you've made will still matter.

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  64. This is one of the realest things I've ever read.

    I'm totally reminded of Marianne Williamson's poem Our Deepest fear - "As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." Thank you for sharing, your honestly is an inspiration.

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  65. Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I feel like I've just had a coffee with my best friend and you're her telling me all these things. I'm currently at my desk at work wiping the tears from my eyes and composing myself to write this comment.

    Keep strong, If I found a human being in the world that never questioned life and the point of things I'd be incredibly shocked.

    Lots of love from the UK,

    Katie <3

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  66. What a beautiful post!! I think so many of us hide behind the highlight reel that we put out there for the public to consume, and we forget that all of us are dealing with our own struggles. I found you through Kate of Diaries of an Essex Girl, and I'm glad I did! I just went through one of the worst summers of my entire life, and still have feelings of anger and bitterness towards those that were involved. We're all human, and allowed to have an imperfect day, or month, or longer. And don't I know, the cliche saying it will all work out in the end, time will make it all better, blah blah blah really only serve to annoy!

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  67. I am probably only going to reiterate what was already said but I wish we all could be as brave as you. I hope you know how remarkable this post was and how awesome it is to make other women feel like they can stop hiding, including myself. We should celebrate our weakness and the experiences that help us grow, not be ashamed of them or feel bad because we fell down for awhile. Please never stop blogging. You really have a gift. XO

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  68. I love this post. I think you just published things that we all feel and go through and the point is to keep fighting through things that we come across. I have thought of at least half if not more of your items on the list and I remember thinking things were never going to get better and they always seem to. Thank you for sharing!!!

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  69. I just came over from She's A Big Star's recommendation of your post. So this is my first time reading your blog and ... I love it! I am not sure how old you are but I am guessing I am an old lady compared to you and I have experienced and lived thru just about all of what you just said... still living thru some of it too. Shit's hard... bravo for writing about it! Looking forward to getting to know you:)
    Cheers!
    Amy

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  70. Kym I love this post so much. The fact that you keep it real and don't just write what you feel others want to read is the main reason I sponsor and will continue to sponsor you. You inspire me to not hold back when I post. Heart you!

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  71. Wow I am new to your blog and I just love this post. More than I can even show. It inspires me to do one also. I ditto Jessica when I say please never stop blogging!

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  72. Such a brave and raw post, you should be proud of your courage. Thank you for sharing and making so many other ladies feel better about not having it all figured out, about life not being perfect and not being perfect. Smile, be happy and positive whenever you can and when you can't, when life is too hard, it's okay to take some time to yourself and feel sad. When life gives you lemons...feel happy because hey free lemons! x

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  73. I'm a new reader (Erin @She's a big star sent me over). I usually don't comment on a blog until I've read it entirely. I don't like to commit to a blog until I'm sure it fits with me, if that makes any sense, but I couldn't not comment.

    You are very brave to put it out there. I understand where you're coming from especially with the money, friends, and miscarriage. Really this whole post is awesome.
    I had a miscarriage in between baby #2 and 3. It sucks and you feel horrible like you did something wrong. I understand I'm sorry you had to go through that.

    People: Truth is some people just suck, and don't know what to say when just a "how are you doing or I'm sorry" would suffice. I'm with you I have a limited amount of people I "let in". I have many that are around me but not many I would call in the middle of the night if the house was burning down.

    Keep your chin up beautiful girl things will get better.
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  74. your doing great .. your to hard on your self, you are a great mom. everything you want will come in time.. i love reading you blog please don't stop :O)

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  75. Thank you for sharing. I often write a post and then delete it. I don't think I'm brave enough to share everything but I try to share some of my more personal stuff and things that are hard on me. Some people seem so perfect on their blogs, but nobody's life is perfect.

    I have to get off facebook sometimes (after my last break up, I was off for about 4 month) bc i get jealous of ppl's lives. I actually have been slacking at reading ppl's blogs lately for that reason too. Thank you so much for sharing.

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  76. It's awesome . I would hate if anyone would judge you for being real , honest and SO definite . There are a lot of things that I wouldn't blog about (most likely) but I really admire that you did!

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  77. I love how honest this post is. I just stumbled upon your blog today, and it was just what I needed. I can relate to so many of those points, and I feel the exact same way. I had a bit of a "rant" post a couple of weeks ago on my blog and I was humbled and inspired by the number of people who reached out to me after. And you're right...it's way cheaper than a therapist!! Thanks for sharing. :)

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  78. Oh girl you are so not alone. I totally get you on all of this. I have a horrible tempter to go with my anxiety/panic attacks and so it gets ugly. We are so alike it's scary. I am 21 and living with my bf at his parents house. I haven't really told anyone but it's the truth. We are doing it to get out of our debt that my bf put of it. We hit our low point last year and it still comes up but we are working through it and I am sure you are too. Don't feel to hard about yourself you are human, so is your husband and you guys are doing what is right for YOU. Maybe those other younger couples are struggling with ten times mroe debt but won't say anything. And I think it's a blessing that you guys haven't gotten prego yet. Just think that you guys can work on you guys as a married couple without having added stress to your life. Sure you will have one day but think of all the blessing you have now. Just my thoughts.

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  79. Oh dear breaking heart, we suffer from much of the same as far as emotions, cutting people out of your life and dealing with the negative pregnancy test month after month. Nothing screams "FAILURE" quite like a negative pregnancy test and you can't help but feeling it is ALL your fault. Nothing can kill the mood and your level of fertility quite like stress and anxiety. We've been trying since July. It is NOT working. We have a three year old daughter and it took us two months to get pregnant with her. And that was getting off of the pill too. This time I've been off the pill for almost 3 years...and let's get real...I totally ASSUMED that if we are having unprotected sex we WILL be pregnant !! Lies. All hog wash and lies. I wanted another summer baby. Not happening unless we stop trying until July 2014. After repeated negative pregnancy tests, I find that getting intimate with my husband brings a hopelessness that one should not feel in this sacred space. Once I realized this, that my OWN need/want for a baby was sucking the JOY out of my everyday life...I made a vow to not let that happen. That us not being pregnant is for a reason and in our best interest. I refuse to resort to ovulation tests...I feel like a science experiment enough as it is...and when we are supposed to be parents, it will happen. This is the part of life where you learn to grow; to have a grateful and happy heart while things are not going as planned, to see the blessings in your life that you aren't seeing everyday and waking up with a happy song in your heart stating, "Today...is going to bring forth AMAZING opportunities and adventures!!" I think the majority of your late 20's & early 30's is spent with this dire need to KNOW what happens between here and there. I'm a die hard planner; we haven't even started trying this month and I can tell you my due date and when morning sickness will rear it's ugly head, yet I think THAT attitude of HAVING to know NOW how it's going to work out...is exactly what's killing the adventures we are so desperate to grab on to. It WILL happen. It's happened once before, it will happen again. You know your body works how it's supposed to, that baby just wasn't perfect for you. Good things comes to those who wait...and even better things comes to those who experience misfortune in the process. *hugs*

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  80. You are absolutely amazing for this. SO many of us feel the same about our blogs and have so many inner demons we are fighting with (just like myself)! I think you are just that much more awesome for coming out with this. I'll be praying for you!

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  81. Wow, big bravery to post this. Good for you. Everyone struggles with things and no one's life is as rosy as it looks on the internet or in real life to other people. So thanks for reminding us that bloggers are human too. :)
    You're great.

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  82. Minus the hockey player husband and mom's basement with a dash more of debt, I am right there with you. Best blog post I've ever read.

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  83. Your extremely brave for being so honest. How could anyone judge you when most of us are do not have the courage to do the same. We all have bad moments and secrets that we keep for fear of judgement. I have to say I have been struggling majorly these past 6 months but haven't said a word about it on my blog. You might have just given me the courage to do so. So thank you.

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  84. Oh honey!! Since my miscarriage in August-- I've thought I was pregnant every month too. I've driven my closest friends crazy (I'm sure) because I've talked about it at the end of the month and refused to take a pregnancy test because I was scared it would be negative and I just wanted to give my body ONE MORE DAY to possibly be or get pregnant. I've had to stop writing down when we have sex or looking at one of the 12 ovulation calculators that I've downloaded on my phone because I was literally losing hair over it. And I lost SO MUCH WEIGHT but I feel like I'm just getting bigger every month and I don't know what to do about it.
    You don't have to fluff your blog-- we are all here for you and you'd be surprised what others have been through and how their experiences and their advice can help your through your trials!

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  85. I absolutely love this Kym. Aren't we all constantly just putting up a front between us and the world? For me -- I constantly laugh and joke about my family but, at the moment, I have an incredibly strained relationship with my mother. On a daily basis, it is taxing and some weeks I spend hours crying because I don't like the path we're on but try as hard as I might, I can't get our relationship back on track. I'm tired. I'm angry. I'm hurt. I'm sad. But do I blog about it? No. I do not.

    So here's to you for saying some of the things I won't -- for really expressing yourself -- and for saving a crap ton on therapy bills! :)

    -Kate
    www.theflorkens.com

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  86. And this is why I love you and reading your blog! I seriously struggle with a few of these things as well. Just seeing that one other person I know struggles too makes it feel a little more okay. We all have these things that we "hide" from the internet because we get torn down for being so negative if we do post them. Or we just aren't comfortable admitting it to the whole world and there's nothing wrong with that! Life is not always easy but with the help of sweet people like you, we can figure it out!
    XO

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  87. Hi! I've never read your blog before but through some chain blog reading, found this post and I have to say that I am so happy that you shared this with the world. It's tough to share these things, but this is the reason a lot of us got into blogging - this sense of community! I can relate to a lot of the points you posted up there. If you ever need someone to talk to, my door and my blog are always open. <3

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  88. Wow, this is so real. I appreciate every single word because I know it took guts and also I relate with you. I have been thinking about how blogging lets us have a filter and present who we want. It's kinda makes me feel weird and I'm still figuring out what I want to share and what I want to withhold. Thanks again for this post.

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  89. I love this so much. There is a lot on this list I can relate to and am so glad that you shared it. Knowing there is someone out there that is going through some of the same things I am is actually very comforting. I hope that laying this all out there was also comforting to you. Thank you so so much for sharing!

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  90. I love you. I love this. This post is exactly what I want to see on blogs. I'm so glad you were brave enough to share this! Thank you for sharing :)

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  91. Well done on being so brave and sharing! I think people who share the not-so-shiny-happy things on their blog are much more 'human' to me; I become so much more attached to them, and their story. Plus, I related to many of the thing you've talked about in this post, especially feeling like I haven't achieved enough for my age. Thank you for sharing!

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  92. I just love this post Kym. I have been struggling with sensitivity issues and I have never opened about it on blog! It's true that social media made me jealous, here was a moment when I was effected by the perfect life through instagram of some peeps. Honestly, I just love it! Thanks for being honest!

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  93. Blogs can offer such a polarizing view of a life, it's so refreshing when the person behind it is brave enough to be honest and vulnerable. Thank you! Wishing you a great weekend with lots of offline love.

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  94. Love you for all that you are :)

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  95. Wow! Wonderful post. Thank you for being so very honest. Don't feel bad at loving in your moms basement. I'm 41 and my family & I live with my mother n law. And half the time we wonder if were ever gonna dig our way out? Half the time I just want to give up & throw in the towel, buy then what kind of example would that be for our kids!

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  96. Love this post, and of course your blog! Could relate to a lot of what you wrote. Wish the blogging community could be so open and real as you have been here. Thanks for sharing.

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  97. Amazing. You're so brave! My credit card debt is worse than yours and it makes me feel sick on a daily basis- why did we get so far into a hole?!

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  98. Such an amazing blog post. There's plenty that I'm afraid to blog about, and your bravery to publish some of your hushed non-posts is very empowering.
    I'm a brand new follower via GFC and bloglovin, here by way of Noor's Place and I Have a Messy Bun (my two fave twins in the blogosphere). I'm glad I found your blog, because I think it's a place I'm gonna love to visit often. =0)
    ~Kim
    2justByou

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  99. Beautiful, beautiful post, and no one could judge you because we all struggle in our own way! {{HUGS}}

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  100. I really appreciate you for putting this all out there xo

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  101. This may be the best blog post I have ever read. I started following your blog when I came across your post "Eventually I will be okay . . ." It really resonated with me. I have always felt you were very down to earth and real, and I felt comfortable here. Even though you may not always share your "deepest and darkest" I still think you have a way of being very real. This post was a beacon to me today as I struggle with many of the same things. It has encouraged me to write my own list (though I likely won't post it). It helped me feel not so alone in the world and with my struggles. So much of it resonated with me and helped me feel like I could keep going and keep being brave and keep trying to make my little contribution to the world and not give up. Thank you for your bravery and for sharing your heart and life.

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  102. Best. Post. Ever. Thanks for not sugar-coating it!

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  103. How did I miss this one. So proud of you for this. I loved this way more than half the fluff posts I see around blogland (mine included).

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  104. This post is SPOT ON. Seriously, everyone should write a post like this. As a 24 year old, single professional I many times feel like I have nothing together. No large savings account, no boyfriend, fiance, or husband, and no fabulous closet to turn to.

    You are not alone and thank you for writing this extremely honest post.

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  105. Your honesty inspires me and I think it's a beautiful, beautiful thing. I hope this blog post "freed" you. I must have signed up for your blog after you posted about your miscarriage. I just want to tell you that several of my friends (I'm a late bloomer...33, no hubby, no kids, no home) have gone through countless miscarriages. It wrecked them but when they were ready, they tried again. Please don't be so hard on yourself. I'm not sure if you pray but I'm sending you one tonight. I pray for a peace of mind for you, that you feel your best and when you don't that you have lots of patience. I love, love, love your blog. It makes me feel not alone when I do feel alone. You make others laugh and that's awesome. Thanks for sharing. I'm going to have a glass of wine tonight and think about honesty. :)

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  106. This is the first time I have ever read your blog and I feel like you're reading my mind. We've been trying since July and there have been three months, one where I was two weeks late that I really thought I was pregnant. I understand the let down and the fear and I just wanted to thank you for voicing it. Everyone tells you to be patient and it will happen but I just want to slap them... thanks for being you.

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  107. I admire you for this. I stumbled up on your blog through someone's tweet and I am so happy that I did. An honest blog post makes you relateable. It takes strength to share what you have shared. I am nowhere near that but I am so glad I found your blog. :)

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  108. I took a break from the blogging world and shut my blog down because I felt like I couldn't keep up with all the pretty and gold and pink and glitter and fashion posts. Then I realized I hate blogs that sugar coat things, that only have their instagram and twitter of their desks and their coffee and flowers. Yes they are pretty but that is it? That is all your life consists of is your gold glittered desk and coffee? Where is your life pics, where are your friends? I RARELY post on peoples blog posts and have only been a semi-lurker since I shut my own blog down. However, I am more likely to get started in the blog world again because of this post. Please don't be afraid to share posts like this! I love them... I mean my heart aches for all of your pains that you are currently enduring but it also helps me to know that I am not alone in this world and not everything is glitter and it is OKAY!

    I really appreciate your honesty and putting it all out there. I feel it shows your humbleness as a person and as a blogger. You are the type of blogger I want to keep on my reading list. Don't get me wrong I do like my share of pretty things and seeing fashion posts but life isn't only that.

    Thank you for being inspiring and the kind of person and blogger I want to be.

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  109. This is my first blog post of yours I've read. I'm new to the whole blogging community and am entirely impressed with your genuine, honest, and vulnerablilty here. I will definitely be coming back for more. Just know you're human and I can relate to a good amount of things on your list. I don't even know you and I totally understand some of your sturggles. I guess I just want to tell you- you're not alone.
    Someone told me once to "write stuff that scares and challenges you- it's the best"

    www.allusional.com

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  110. You are AMAZING! I truly appreciate your honesty in this post. I actually have a post similar to this in my drafts that just keeps accumulated confessions, but I don't know if I'll ever find the bravery or the courage to post it. Kudos to you girl... this post was simply amazing. It's so important to realize that there's more than meets the eye and that we're all struggling with different things in our life. Thank you for putting yourself out there + sharing this! :)

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  111. I came across your blog from another blog that I frequent and I am in love. This post was so beautiful. I wish more people were so honest. We all have our issues and many of the same ones you have. For you to have the bravery to put it all out there is so refreshing.

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  112. Myspace does not (really) matter anymore but it did while it did. What does it matter if this blog does not in 5 years? It's a blog not a child or a marriage. It's a day to day adventure you get to share with strangers and maybe friends. If that stops will you be worse off for the time you have spent that is the question.

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  113. We have been trying since August as well, and I get scared it may not happen too. I know it takes on average 6-8 months to conceive but It helps knowing I'm not along in feeling that.

    Thank you for being honest, your blog is my fav!

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  114. Great Post. I was never able to conceive(well not true I had a miscarriage) but never got pregnant again. Instead we adopted and I truly believe I was never meant to give birth. I was 100% meant to adopt my daughter. Nothing but the grace of god put her in our lives. If you can never have kids its ok...adopt!!!!

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  115. This post is amazing. It is the first one of yours as I found you through Erin on Living in Yellow. I can relate to you on sooo many levels. I am now going to be stuck to my computer all night reading your entire blog (when I really should be packing, so thanks for that). I appreciate your honesty as I am not quite this brave yet. I too am struggling feeling stuck in life and with a heroin addict family member who is currently hurting my family so much right before the holiday. Kudos to you for just laying things out there. You are definitely not alone! Sending positive thoughts to your family Kym! I can't wait to read more.
    Life is Peaches

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  116. I'm speechless. This is the first time visiting your blog (all the blog love you got for the post sent me here) and I feel like I know you better than I know myself. Bravo for putting yourself out here on a limb like this. It is so real and raw. Thank you for not shying away from the truth. I'm inspired from this post, I may have to write on of my own. It hope it felt freeing for you and I hope you are embraced by tons of woman who are going through similar struggles and can lift you up! So happy to be your newest reader!

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  117. As I read your list I broke into tears. I have never experienced a miscarriage, but I've never been pregnant and I know the pain. I am so glad I found your blog today. Praying for you and will be doing this post on my blog today. I’m a newbie so I hope you enjoy reading it if you enter my blog. Be Blessed.

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  118. That was awesome! Today is the first time I've read your blog (thanks to Living in Yellow), but this post makes me want to come back for more. My husband, daughter, and I recently moved in with his Mom and Step-Dad. We're broke, in debt, and really had no other choice. I'm 35 and living with my in-laws. Never saw that one coming, but it is what it is and we're making it work. I admit it feels good to know I'm not the only one who doesn't have it all together yet and it gives me incentive to work hard at 'fixing' things. Thanks again for such an honest, relatable post. Now I'm gonna go start reading your older ones :)

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  119. This is the best blog post I've read in weeks! I'm not kidding. This was so honest, real, and exactly what blogging should be. I hate sugar-coating everything and pretending that everything needs to look perfectly. We all have stuff going on. Bravo for putting yourself out there and being real-- you're one of the few. I'm so happy I found your blog today!

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  120. I found this post from Erin @ Living in Yellow and I am so glad that I read it!! I am a new follower now!! I can relate to some of the things you said as can most I am sure. You second one about being your highest weight ever - yep that's me too!! I avoid mirrors at all possible costs!! I am very sorry to hear about your miscarriage!! I cannot not imagine how hard that was for you! I hope that when the time is right you will become pregnant again and carry a sweet baby full term! Thank you for sharing!!

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  121. Hi Kym, I'm a new follower and found this post through Erin @ LIY. You brought tears to my eyes and completely warmed my heart, because I too have some of your same fears and anxieties. Especially things like a busy grocery store. I love how you put that you're more accepting as you become older yet realize the less you truly like people. This really hit home with me and thank you for your honesty. This was a great post and someghing that made me feel a world of difference to know some of the feelings I feel are not uncommon.

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  122. Love love love this post and I'm even more in love with it because I've seen a few other posts that were inspired by this one. Thanks for being so brave and sharing, I absolutely respect and appreciate how transparent you are, it's so hard to do!

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  123. we have a lot in common. i struggle with a lot of those things you listed as well. you are so brave to open up about those things! i feel like we would be best friends. can we be best friends?
    laurenofthedoxey.blogspot.com

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  124. I've never been to your blog before and I don't know you at all but I just want to say you are so brave for posting this and I wish I could give you a HUGE hug. This post? Amazing.

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  125. Hello! I found you through a link from Aunie Sauce's blog, and let me say, after this, I will be around for a while! I can relate to so many of your truths here (living in my parents basement with my fiance, credit card debt, not telling our professions, becoming more introvert as I get older), I hear you my dear. And thank you for posting this, you are a brave woman. And prayers to your journey to pregnancy!!

    ~Katy

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  126. I found your blog through a blog I follow who did a similar post as you did, and I just want to say you're not alone with a lot of these struggles/feelings.
    I know exactly how it feels when your family doesn't recognize that you're a mother, it hurts like hell. You ARE a mother and always will be regardless if your baby here with you. I am terrified to try again because I don't want to be let down time after time when I don't get that positive or find out I never will get a positive.
    Marriage is hard for me, I feel like mine may not work because I can't change and I will always be stubborn and have anger issues.
    I hope you're able to get your big fat positive soon!

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  127. I also have a close family member who is a heroin addict, so I totally relate to that, it's hard!

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  128. Um, this is amazing. You are amazing!! I am the same way about anxiety!! It can be annoying at times too, ha!

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  129. Here from Helene's blog. I love this post. I can relate to so much of this it's unreal. Family members who are on drugs, no matter what drug that may be, it's sad. Trying to get pregnant, unsuccessfully. My husband and I live in my parents basement-we've never had a place of our own yet. And girrrllll the anxiety and the liking people less is always something I am working on. Ha. I definitely is a work in progress all the time type thing. & I always go back and forth on blogging.
    Also, I don't like seeing people younger than me having their shit as together as it is (or they make it seems) don't get me wrong, I'm happy for them, it's great. But, I know I should be in a better place than I am and the fact that I'm 25 married, living at home, no job, no luck in starting my family...it's hard to not be a little bitter. I try no to, but it really is hard. I have no clue where I fully belong in the world so I'm also standing in what-the-fuck-am-I-doing-with-my-life-ville.
    I can really relate to so much on your list. I think it's great that you were brave enough to post about it, it's admirable. I get like that a lot, out of fear of being judged too much or the possible backlash or just oversharing. I talk about a lot of it on my blog, but there are still little bits that I withhold sometimes.
    You're pretty awesome & I'm so gonna have to check out the rest of your blog.
    :-)
    xoxo
    Brandy @ Sissy-Fits.blogspot.com

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  130. out of all of the blog entries I've ever read this is probably the one that's the most real. I think it takes guts to post about things that are personal. I think it makes the piece more relatable, heartfelt and better. I appalaud, and I wish you will with all of your struggles. I can't wait to read more of your work on your blog!
    Natalie

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  131. This is the first time I've ever ventured to your site. I've seen people pimp your posts on Twitter a bunch and I was always like, "well I don't have time for all the blogs I read already, so I'll just pass." And holy crap. I'm kicking myself now for waiting so long. This post made me cry because of how real and completely honest you were. I found myself identifying with so many things that you confessed.. It's incredible. Is this how the community works and builds and creates friendships? I don't know, but I'm guessing yes. Props to you, my dear..I am admiring the heck out of you right now, and sending all kinds of encouraging vibes your way.

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  132. Never let yourself fall for the lie (that everyone has it together)! I'm 47 and I could relate to many of the things on your list. I also could think of all the truths that I hide behind in my own life. This past year....has been the hardest of all my life. My mother died & left me to deal with her whole 64 years of life/hoarding/house and grief, all 3 of my kids moved out for college, my hubby changed jobs, we sold our house (where we raised our kids), I left my school job in the middle of the year, we moved 2 hours away from all that we knew AND THE WORST WINTER EVER has been my constant companion since I moved into my new house. That means; NO FRIENDS, NO GETTING OUT AND EXERCISING, NO FAMILY, and my confidence has dropped to zero!

    I'm hanging on.....and trusting that God has a bright future in spite of all that has happened. You hang on too!

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